Over drinks last night, my Swedish friend Roger offered more of an explanation of lagom. To him, it also means just right for you. For now. “It’s almost philosophical,” he added.
“It’s also interesting. Everyone knows that Östermalm, Djurgården and Lidingö are where all the wealthy people live (in Stockholm). But, you’re not supposed to be too rich. For instance, a big diamond ring with a lot of bling would not be lagom at all.”
A good aspect of lagom, he continued, is that “famous people feel normal here. Tiger Woods can go the pub or the mall and people won’t bother him for an autograph.
Finally, Roger added that “Sweden is a lagom country. It’s in between Russian communism and US capitalism.”
And on the subject of pushy Swedes, Roger also agreed with me. (Maybe his answer was swayed by the glasses of wine I served him?) Anyway, his take is that Stockholmers and Parisians are very very alike in this context…
Thanks Roger. You’re a big help. As always.